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Hexagram 30, as I mentioned before, I see as a context. A situational aspect of the bully's formulation.Good questions as we look to the possibilities of healing divisions with a new president. What do you make of the resulting hexagram 30? I worry that the example set by the current administration will embolden the opposition to take on bullying tactics of their own. Many, myself included, have mocked the MAGAs with impunity, feeling that such “deplorables” didn’t rate any show of civility. Will we be able to now resist becoming bullies ourselves?
On-line translations omit the middle two definitions, however in the case of the bully their early life conditioning ('the rules' passed down from the parents, and the fears and threats formed in their un-safe nurturing space) becomes something that they depend on or rest on. It becomes the the nature of the world that they inhabit."The trigram Li means 'to cling to something', 'to be conditioned', 'to depend or rest on something' and also "brightness."
The Creative has incorporated the central line of the Receptive, and thus Li develops. As an image, it is fire. Fire has no definite form but clings to the burning object and thus is bright. As water pours down from heaven, so fire flames up from the earth. While K'an means the soul shut within the body, Li stands for nature in its radiance.
The sharing of your truth is worth a darn site more than two cents. Thank you.Well, there's my two cents, for what it's worth.
Such an evocative image !!The sapling bent into Knotted wood.
I would agree. Bullies are fundamently disempowered souls who like to regain an illusion of power by putting others down. A kind of defensive mentality that says 'However disempowered I may be I'm going to make sure there is at least one person below me in the pile. Lording over or belittling another gives me at least a small sense of power and that all is well in the garden.'They only kick 'down' at those that they think are weaker than them,
And when they think can get away with it.
That predatorial aggressiveness and desire to dominate is often just one of many faults,
Ie: Jealousy is very common, often a disdain for law/authority in general..etc
Yes. When their behaviour is given any semblance of creedance they become inflated. They feel empowered and so will look to repeat that bullying action. The thing is, the threats they see that they want to protect themselves from are rarely true threats. Survival of the truths that they have invested so heavily in over their lives is important for them though as without these truths ( the truths of their conditioning) what else does their world hold for them.Bullies succeeed when good people cower from them,
afraid to do anything to stick up for themselves,
And who might rationalize such inaction as somehow virtuous.
(Hint: It is only correct when survival truly is at stake, then it is smart ala 36.)
I think it can be a bit more complicated than that, but generally bullies are not blessed with high empathy. As you say, the development of it was most likely curtailed when they were a sapling.Bullies, learn like everyone else: only when they face consequences that force them
to modify their behaviour.
They must be confronted.
(Because you cannot appeal to an empathy that has not yet been developed... look at the current u.s. president for example.)
That is best done by authority figures, or by normal people with courage.
When both bully and victim are within a hierarchy of some sort,
with bully occupying a higher wrung, this is the worst scenario,
because they are emboldened while the subordinate is abused.
This is what makes it so Bad when cops are bad: they increase the sum total of violence in society, by making the criminals even worse.
It's a tough road that you have travelled. The characteristics embued in Sage Warriors who can see beyond the illusion do not come cheaply, neither are they10 a penny. It warms my heart to have heard just a small part of your story and the victories you have achieved.As a child, I was bullied from the ages of 8 to 11.
My bully was... not your average one at first glance, but surely had some underlying similarities.
His name was Teddy. He was a small-framed child who cleverly discovered that he had the ability
to redirect the anger of the bigger typical bully type kids (little brothers of gang members) away from him and to any target he chose. (As long as they got to rage and be violent with anyone,
It really didn't matter much who the victim was, it was their sport.) He chose me, thereby saving himself.
So, for three years, I was the subject of oh... lets average it at thrice weekly severe beatings by groups
of 3-7 boys. I learned to outlast them,
I didn't know how to fight then (nor had the wish to hurt anyone, still don't), so just became the anvil to their hammers.
(Their arms and legs would tire out before my will did)
After three years of this, with zero help from school administrators,
I felt nearly broken: I had to do something. So, one day most of the bad kids had been detained inside
and I ran into Teddy, alone for the first time.
I confonted him, and for the first time in my life, fought back, punching him once.
He fell badly on his face and lost several teeth from hitting the ground.
He and the other 6 bullies never attacked me, or others there at school, again.
Let that sink in.
As an adult, I began to study martial arts in order to protect myself and others,
and have found myself now working in security.
I have gotten a few bully managers fired from their positions.
Such people should never be allowed to be in a position of authority.
Absolutely. Bullies are forged in the flames. How they behave is not who they are. Mercy is what they have been seeking yet have been unable to find. When they do find and show remorse and regret then that is something to be celebrated.And if a bully shows remorse,
show them mercy and embrace them with all of your heart.
The quality of mercy is not strain'd.
It droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven
Upon the place beneath. It is twice blest:
It blesseth him that gives and him that takes.
'Tis mightiest in the mightiest; it becomes
The thronèd monarch better than his crown.
Good point. The etymology of 'sin' stems from earlier meanings of guilt. So the way bullies were treated could stem from the guilt being carried by their mother, father, or other authority figures.Sins of the father/mother or the sins of an authoritative or larger person. Many serial killers are bullies, for example torturing animals. Many of them were actually bullied themselves in one way or another.
Although line 3 doen't appear in the reading here. If you are talking generally about line 3 vs line 1 in the hexagram, I would agree. Line 1 I think has deeper ancestral connotations too - 'rigid adherance to tradition has resulted in decay' and indicates things being passed from generation to generation. Additionally, in Line 1 the son has taken on the ownership for working on what has been spoiled. Line 3 in Wilhelm's eyes only means that there is an occasional effort to 'set right what has been spoiled by the father' ( Wilhelm).I have just noticed that line one is more serious in the correction as opposed to line three.
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